Marle,
Wonderful lesson in this for me, too, Marle. I know that the only person I can change is me. And when I do the hard work and do change, thinking that certainly there will be progress, well, there is .... IN ME. I wish the program DID guarantee that if we change, they'd change. But it doesn't. It just promises a better way of life for us. And if our addicted person changes for the better, then that's just a bonus.
And Marle, I have to tell you. I can think of lots of adjectives I'd use to describe you, but MEAN isn't one of them.
I'm going out on a limb, right here, right now, and say your AD doesn't have a clue how UNmean her mama is. I hate that for her and you. She's missing a real treat in you.
Hugs,
Hangin' In