Originally Posted by
marle 
irrespective of how I treat her (good or bad, nice or mean) I will get addict behavior, I will get blamed for things that I did not do and have no control over.
You're right, it IS addict behavior,
and it projects itself on people who are the closest to the addict.
In fact, that's what the topic is this morning in my ODAT book.
Sometimes I have a
very difficult time NOT speaking up, and saying exactly how I feel to my AS, but it goes no where, so I've resigned myself to ahuh, and Oh? And hmmmm....
You're doing great.
Hugs,