Old 02-20-2008, 07:50 PM
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2Growstrong
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Designer i can "hear" the pain you are feeling right now....and I also wondered this same thing before and after I left my xah. I don't think that there is an easy answer to your question and I have researched it quite a bit. The mystery of how the human brain works is so complex you could study it all your life and just begin to grasp the basics. I think some a's have a lot of love for their families but the addiction is a competing factor. This causes them even more stress. They lack self control and temperance. They are generally disloyal if you consider loyalty to be being able to maintain commitments of trust to loved ones. It seems to be a catalog of character flaws. Maybe that is why he wants to throw in the towel as you said because he knows his own flaws and doesn't want to hurt you more. Maryanne
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