I always got the blame. Always. I was the problem. I was too attractive, therefore that led to jealousy. I was too moody, too lazy, too bossy, didn't want intimacy enough...you name it. Until I set up an intervention and during the confrontation, I was being blamed. It wasn't until a few days after that when my AH agreed to treatment that he admitted it wasn't me but that he had to blame "someone."
It's not you. That's their cop out. The problem lies somewhere deep inside themselves but it's just easier to blame the other half.