Absolutely, Peach....when I first came to this site, I had no idea I was a flaming codie...Thank you SR!! I had banged my head against the wall for 7 years trying to figure out WHY I had such a hard time letting go...It was a mystery to me.I proceeded to do the work like a good little codie girl...
Did all the boundary work with her, made the changes I needed to make...but I wanted to be free of the pain I felt... but I wasn't prepared for the emotional fallout....the vacuum left in my life that my codie behavior filled up...(single-parent, only child, almost lost her to cancer and the street) ...when I finally came to a place of truly accepting that I was and seeing how much it had defined my life, it was emotionally devastating because of my denial of my emotions for so long...but a tremendous relief to 'see' that I am powerless and can finally let go.....