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Old 02-13-2008, 06:17 PM
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Originally Posted by liesagain View Post

I want him to be warm and safe and clean ..................so here I am
trying to remember I'm doing the right thing...............
They call it tough love because it hurts but I think they also call it tough love because it takes tough love to break through the wall of addiction.
Giving him what he needs vs giving him what he wants...

Don't sit there trying to remember if you are doing right...
Sit there knowing you are.
If he wants solutions bad enough that he will walk into a meeting dirty and needing clean clothes... he will walk out of that meeting with more recovery found in that one hour then he could gather up from 10 meetings.

You held your boundary and in doing so, your space is at more peace then it would be if you didn't and he just may be one step closer to wanting to seek his solutions for himself.

You are doing so right.
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