"He has been to them what their own father has not, he's been there as a "father figure". BUT...he is a crack addict and always will be. He is not someone you would picture as a "crackhead". " Wow, that couldn't be any closer to my situation... He IS to my children what their father is not, and that's why I feel so horribly walking away from him, because my children will be devastated! They've had to already deal with a divorce between their father and I in the past 2 years, and now this... it breaks my heart for them. And my fiance is too a 'functioning addict', or I guess at least for now he is! But thank you for your advice... that post really hit home for me. I will go to Alanon anyways, whether I stay with him or not, to help me figure out my situation. And gladly, our finances are separate, and I own my home that I live in with my kids... so all of that is pretty 'smooth' i guess, but impossibly heartbreaking and hard nonetheless. Thanks again though!