Barbdee,
If its working for you...then its what you can do at the moment.
I could go on and on about what we "should" or "shouldn't" do, but then I'd have to look in the mirror myself.
I imagine in time, this will get old, but then again, you may feel positive changes that allow you to feel more comfortable making little changes as you go.
If there really were a formula that guarenteed success, I would have bought it a long time ago.
The way I look at it is this:
If after time has past, everyone is honestly comfortable with the way things are, then who are we to argue.
SO...you're not getting the anon award of the year...I'm glad you've found a comfort zone for now...thats what really matters.
(((Hugs)))