What an awesome post. When we are with a selfish addict we think it is all about them.
The true lesson is it is and always has been about us. Why are we in it. What does our own inventory look like and if things aren't working what can we do about changing ourselves instead of changing them. It takes work and experience to break our cycle.
Yea for you!!!! You are doing it !!!!! You know what healthy feels like now.
It is not all about marrying the right person, but being the right person.