Boy - it's almost like reading my story! I know how you feel. Hope213 said it, you will know when you've had enough. I sure did, one morning it just popped right out - "I'm done"! Thanks to my therapy, f2f meetings, and largely this board, I finally better understand that regardless if the addiction caused the behaviors or the behaviors lead to the addiction, he is who he is and I can want him to change (for his own good of course
), but only he can change if he wants to and who am I to decide if changing is for his own good? For my own good, I cannot be around this person anymore as my H. There are many here though that have managed to rebuild new relationships with the A's.