I'll be honest, Cats -- I live in a small town (near Boston, not in Boston) and have great concerns about the "anon" part of Nar-Anon meetings. Everywhere I go, I see people I work with -- I don't need to be running into them there. I know that this is my way of further "protecting" my H - I don't want people to know what I live with - not even my family knows. It's part being ashamed, and part fear that I'm opening a whole new can of worms once people know what he's like.