Buddhist point of view
With step one I began to see that the parts of my life that are unmanageable and the people and situations that are not mine to manage.
I use to say it is not so "it is the addict that is out of control - if I could only change him, I could manage very nicely."I tried
all kinds of things to show him how wrong he is. It's so obvious. "If only he would decide to stop using. If only I could do just that one right thing to make him stop. But none of it works, he is so stubborn" Slowly I began to see that I am powerless over the addict. All the manipulating and maneuvering has not helped. I cannot control & manage, because it is not My life I was trying to manage. I must realize where my responsibilities end. We do not like it when our well meaning relatives try to tell us how to live. Neither does our loved addict like us to tell him.
From a Buddhist point of view, letting things be allows them to become what they are, instead of what we want them to be.