Sounds like someone in early sobriety to me. In m AD's early sobriety, I heard some of what your daughter said.
She has to find her own way, Lost. As much as we moms want to help them do it, or as much as we moms want to try and figure out if what they're doing and saying is good or isn't good, NONE of this "figuring out" will do any good ... for us or for them.
Best thing I ever did was start to attend Al Anon meetings. I'm learning to back off and let my daughter handle her own recovery. And I'm learning that I, myself, have some work to do .... ON ME. And ya know what, Lost? When I did that...backed off and started working on me, things began to get better for both of us.
Hang in there, Lost. If you don't attend meetings, I'd highly recommend them.
Hugs,
Hangin' In