thanks bluejay!
in the years before he started drinking,but was using drugs, he/we were involved with therapists and psychiatrists ad nauseum. after finally starting to go to alanon this year, i am seeing alot of similarities- especially the cant cure or control it and didnt cause it, and how sick and tired i have become trying to back paddle the boat that is going over the edge real quick.
at first years ago when my therapist suggested alanon,you know al anon was scary to me. now i can see that i wasted all that time hoping he would get better.
he is still someone with an illlness who refuses to seek treatment and help.
i am struggling with the how-to of getting him out of my house.
do i simply tell him i want him out and file for divorce?
do i boot him to rehab once again but then refuse to let him come back?
or is that just a last ditch attempt at control?
the last time i kicked him out, it was in a fit of anger over the latest lunacy whatever that was. i don't even want to waste that much energy on him anymore.
the more i think, the more confused i become, it seems.