Welcome Cyp.....glad that you found us!
SR is filled with a lot of great support! Keep posting! Know that you are not alone in this!
A lot of great advice given up above!
I would suggest to you to try to keep the focus on
YOU!
What I'm getting at here is that his drinking is beyond your control. Your tears, your anger, your accomodation or rejection, your love are immaterial when it comes to his drinking-WantsOut
This is something that takes time to allow it to get through to our brain! Trust me it took me a long time-everyone however is different! But please know this much that this is so true "beyond your control" we each have choices in our lives and the choices that I made in my life differ from the choices I make today-because of Al-Anon, counseling, SR...I have become aware that the only control that I have is over myself!