So you guys test at home? And you guys pay for it?
Nikki, you can by drug tests at any walgreens or rite aid type drug store and they are only about $30. I never used one but I priced them. You need to drug test instantly, when you suspect he is using. Otherwise, too much time passes.
It's the whole instant gratification thing. You don't have time to change your mind. He doesn't have time to make excuses and figure a way out of it or around it. He doesn't have time to argue. And the results are immediate.
If you are going to do it, pick one up before he comes home and keep it under the sink for emergencies.
And Donna is so right. You must be prepared to follow through on the consequences. Otherwise, what is the point.