Old 01-17-2008, 01:14 PM
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VanessaLee13
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There are a lot of great responses on this thread. And it's true, it really does come down to behavior. Addict behavior doesn't need to be tolerated, whether or not the addict is using. BigSis is so right, active addicts do tend to act a certain way.
I guess the only thing I don't agree with that has been said is that a lack of trust d/t addiction pretty much means that there is no point in being in the relationship (sorry, I am majorly paraphrasing). I have decided not to drug test once my ABF comes home from rehab, but that doesn't mean all trust is restored. Trust needs to be earned back. I don't think drug testing would do anything to build that trust back up (would probably end up making the relationship worse), but there definitely is a lack of trust that needs to be repaired. But it can be repaired, as long as both people are willing to work on it and put in the effort.
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