(((barbdee)))
The only way my son learned his lessons was for me to get out of the way of his consequences. He's doing much better now... and was here for dinner tonight to celebrate his brother's birthday. The boys even laughed about Don't call MOM if you are in Jail - and then they said in unison "She doesnt DO bail!"
These are resourceful kids we have. They figure out a way to get a good meal, a nice bed and a warm place to stay. I learned that if I set a boundary, I needed to mean it and enforce it.
I hope you're able to do that , too.
Hugs
Cats