My "A?" I guess I should get the lingo down. That was my first post. I have done a lot of reading on alcholism, but have never found any one theory/philosophy that matches him. He doesn't drink when his life is moving fast enough - which most times it does. He has an extremely demanding job for 7 months out of the year. When he has some down time - and it is not replaced with some heavy stimuli - he fills it with drinking - CAPTAIN DESTRUCTO DRINKING - at which point all bets are off. He wants to be a non-drinking man - the court thing is long since over - but harbors this obsession. He used to obsess about pot, and that just WENT AWAY. I think that is why I stick around - it is tough getting to the black and white of giving up hope and moving on.