The trouble with telling people the plain, hard truth about themselves is that they are almost always clueless and choose to stay that way. So its par for the course that she blew a gasket. blaming her daughter shows that she didn't listen to a word you had to say. IMO, the clergy are some of the most hypocritical of all, so no surprise there. As for you, well you tried and your motives were good (to help your GF) but now you know - you are powerless over her mother. She is also powerless over her mother. Probably a good thing she is no longer living in such a negative environment. Now you both have to let go and live your own lives.