I can understand your point Nina but there's something in me that what's to humiliate her like she does the rest of us. It seems so unfair to me that she feels she has the right to brutalize people with no fear of retaliation. As for hurting my GF, well I'm not so sure. Really and truly I think she's reached her limit with her mom's antics. There's only so much mental and emotional abuse a person can take and that's exactly what's going on here. Her mother is mentally and emotionally abusive. This may sound harsh but I've told my GF on many occasions that the best thing she can do for herself is disconnect with her mother. Like what you all have said and I know, her mom's well aware of her behavior and "chooses" to continue it because she's gotten away with it for so long. I won't say videotaping her isn't an option but I would of course discuss it with my GF first. I appreciate you giving me another point of view.