((Dixie))
Maintaining that bond with your DIL is crucial to having a relationship with your grandson. That is true in normie families too...lol! I am not sure that financial help is required but you do what you need to do to be able to sleep at night. My 33 year old alcoholic son has nearly nothing to do with his own child but my husband and myself are blessed to see him often.
Hugs,
JT