After reading many posts, I see so many others sitautions are far more worse than mine and I feel so sad for them but also see myself in another 5-10 years unless I do something now. I often wonder how people "put Up" with certain behaviors from spouses, then all of a sudden you realize you are one of those people putting up with these things. How all of you must have felt for so many years is so sad. I'm just sorry that there has to be addictions, its so hard to understand.