I gotta agree with Ray. Don't go visit him unless you really want to. Nothing good would come of a visit prompted by guilt or anger or that darned need to know. We all know how hard it is to just turn our backs on them. (God knows, I bailed my XAH out 5 times!)
I have always marveled at how tenaciously we cling to those that we beg to be released from! I know I didn't start getting better until I finally just walked away. I had to close my eyes to him and totally concentrate on my own stuff.
Even now that mine is doing well, I still have to remain very aloof from him. He is like quicksand to me. It is SOOOOO easy to just get sucked back in! He was, in truth, my addiction, and I had to go cold turkey or lose what little sanity I had left.
I don't regret the choices I have made in the past because I learned valuable lessons from every bad decision, but I sure would not want to have to go through it again.
Keep your chin up, Kitty. 2008 can be your best year ever.
MWAH
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