Originally Posted by
denny57 
I procrastinated (which I think applies to not making a choice, too) because I feared making the "wrong" choice. Today I know I can go back and do over anything.
Fear was a biggie for me, too. I had unreasonable expectations of perfection for myself. Making a mistake was something I feared more than anything. I'm finally figuring out that no decision has to be final, and mistakes are how I learn.
As far as getting organized, I avoided that by beating myself up. There was no possible way I could ever organize everything in my life, so why try? I would do one small thing and then beat myself up over all the things still to do. Again, I would just give up, knowing that I would never get it completely right. I've learned not only to take it in small chunks, but to congratulate myself and allow myself to feel good about small accomplishments. I'm still not totally organized, but at least I'm not telling myself I'm incompetent and lazy.
Excellent topic, BTW.
L