Thread: Tough Love?
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Old 12-27-2007, 10:15 AM
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Aysha
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Hi..You have gotten some good advice.
But as an addict myself. I want you to know. Drugs are everywhere. Where there is a will there is a way.
I moved from Florida to New York 5 years ago thinking changing people places and things would do the trick.
Wrong. It wasnt hard to find the drug spots and to be honest and I dont want to scare you. But I actually got worse when I moved away from my familiar drug zone. Yes clear across the country too. Just south to north.
If you do let this move happen. Dont be naive. Addiction is cunning and master manipulative. And like Anna said. YOU NEED TO SET BOUNDRIES and STICK TO THEM!!!
You need to know what to look for. warning signs. things like that.
Sometimes tough love is what it takes for someone to get better.
My grams was the biggest enabler that ever lived and codependant like crazy.
She finally wised up. And I am feeling all my own consequences. And it makes a difference when you do.
Addicts need to stew in their own misery alone sometimes for it to sink in.

It is hard I am sure to do that. But sometimes it is the only way to save someone.
But never give up hope. Just dont enable and be a door mat.
I wish you the best.
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