(((Mair)))
Originally Posted by
RosieM 
Perhaps you don't have to make any big decisions right at this exact moment. You are not heartless. It's a tough spot you are in.
Rosie said exactly what I was thinking. Maybe get through the next couple of days with respect to his cancer surgery first. Then think about how you want to deal with the rest.
Sometimes it's first things first!
Keep coming back!