What a frightening situation to be in. Our instincts are to protect and love our children no matter what. Unfortunately their actions can put them in situations we can not fix for them. This is one of those. My parents love me and warned all of us children about alcoholism and the fact that it ran in both sides of their family. I failed to heed their warnings thinking I could handle it. I wasted nearly 20 years of my life thinking I could handle it. I am sure that the pain, worry, and fear I caused my parents at times was miserable for them. I tried several times to come home so they could fix me, but it was only when I accepted that no person could fix me that I was able to find a lasting solution to my problem. I had to be sick of being sick and tired. I had to get to a place where I could not live with alcohol but did not know how to live without it.
I am sorry that I am not able to offer you more help but I would recommend checking out our friends and family forum as there is a lot of support and experience there related to what you are going through. Here are links to the alcoholism friends and family
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ly-alcoholics/
and the friends and families of substance abusers forum.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...tance-abusers/
Take care, and welcome to SR.