Originally Posted by
miss communicat 
I ask myself first:
1. Is it true?
2. Is it kind?
3. Is it nescessary?
Mine are a little different, but not much.
1. Is it true?
2. Is it mean-spirited?
3. Is it necessary?
Not being mean-spirited isn't the same as being kind. I may or may not be kind to somebody when I am being truthful and honest, depending on the situation, but I don't ever want to be mean-spirited.
Peace.