Hi Need4change,
I think 'giving it time' is important, but it's also just getting used to dealing with things in life without benefit of alcohol. It really does get easier as time goes by. I have to work at staying positive because if I don't, it will start me down that slippery slope. I have to keep balance in my life every day. Try to connect with your spiritual self, get some exercise and take care of your body. And, recognize the voice in your head for what it is - and then you can turn it off and move on.