An idea I have heard over and over again is maybe it would help if you could talk your mom into reading over the messages on this site. Believe me, I am a mother of an AD and have now cut all ties. My AD has aged me, or should I say, I have allowed her addiction age me at least 10 years. I am slowly building myself back up but still wearing down because I have her two children. Your mom is going to do what Moms do, but if she get better educated on addiction maybe it will help...
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