My father and I can cut her off, but my Mom won't or can't or both. My parents have tried to get the children and they are going to have to try again. My sister is very good at schmoozing social services and has never been officially caught as a user, but it's the elephant in the room that everyone knows about. Thank you for your words. I have been praying and praying and that's all we have left. Thanks for your true words, I appreciate it. I feel so hard hearted towards her, so angry and yet so grief stricken, if that makes any sense. I can see that I'm rambling, this is just so difficult. So good to know I'm not alone.