There is nothing new to tell her bec she know exactly what you would like her to do. She knows your "you should...."
For a long time I talked about recovery + treatment every time I talked to my son until he just avoided me bec he didn't want to hear it and didn't want to do it. Once I stopped talking about it he eventually called and came around to see me. I want a relationship with him no matter his condition. I don't see having communication + relationship as enabling.
Now we can talk about it bec he started weekly sessions with a therapist and I agreed to pay for it.
Marle, I think that it is wonderful that you are communicating once again with your daughter.
For me I am learning to talk to him w/o trying to control him or the outcome of the conversation. Beyond his addiction he is a smart, funny young man who is fun to be with. I am trying real hard to see some of his positive traits.
I truly believe our children will seek recovery. Because I am in recovery I am trying real hard to show him with attraction not promotion.