I agree with all of those before me. I know that the crazier things have been the more I put up with them....it's almost like I create a new normal. From the way that it sounds, it doesn't matter if he is using drugs or not, the way that you are being treated is unacceptable. I'm worried about your kids. I know if someone was waking me up early and yelling at me I would be no good for my kids, my work, or my life.
I am the poster child of having to learn to take care of myself first. It's hard to do but it's the only way out of the insanity. Until you are safe there is really no way to help him.
I agree with Anvil - he sounds like a ticking time bomb and that is scary. Prayers for your safety and the strength to do what needs to be done to create that.
Love, Donna