I know how you feel. I was in the same place and so I sent my husband 500 miles away to his sisters. I do worry alot, but only when I dont hear from him, and thats not alot, after the first 3 weeks came many many calls, I take some, I miss some, but I dont attend his pity parties, I process teh info and go on but theres no more resentments and I sleep alot better not wondering if hes going to come in