Your husband will say whatever and it will not change a thing. He can go to counseling and it won't change a thing. I think you know this and are fearful
of having to do the changing. Fear is understandable. The only way out of fear is to face it head on and walk through it. You have support in your counselor and here as well.
I suggest you see a counselor at your local women's shelter as soon as possible and find out your options from an expert. There are options and solutions available. Knowledge is power.
Hugs