You can buy test kits at any Walgreens or CVS you cant ignore this or wish it away or love it away or bitch it away you have to deal with it head on it is a progressive disease if he wants the relationship to work he will do what you ask and if you want him to reamain sober find meetings for him to go to in your area. It makes it easier to deal with a situation when you know you are not alone It works for me thats why I am here and I keep comming back. GOOD LUCK TO YOU !!