Sober people don't go into people's purses. Trust your intuition and don't feel "pity." Pity kills the spirit in others to find their own solutions in life.
I posted that on my fridge to remind me that everytime I wanted to "help" someone outta pity that I was really helping them die. That shook me up enough to reconsider my actions. I didn't like the idea that I might be killing someone. *haha
The other action that helps is calling my sponsor.