welcome to S.R. there are plenty of wifes here on our site that will come along later. lots of times the weekend is slow here. my son is my addict & i know the pain of wanting them to be clean & stay clean. the first thing we learn is we are powerless. they will use or not use regaurdless of what we say or do.if you found the stuff he is using. you do not have to tell the faculity he is in. i am sure they will test him & even if they don't it is hands off the addict. leave his recovery to him & learn to take care of yourself by letting go & letting your H.P. it is hard but that is what our recovery is all about. we learn to have a life with or without them.set boundries for him,what you are willing to put up with & what you are not. if he does not stop using it is only going to get worse.read the stickys at the top of the forum,read "what addicts do" read around all the other post.make yourself at home & keep coming back.prayers, hope