Is it necessary for you to be so tightly involved in this?
Fair question. I'm afraid the answer is yes. My in laws are aging. They are vulnerable. They need support in terms of a decision of this magnitude. They also need 'perspective'. As you know - living with drug addiction for decades skews your view of reality.
This is a close family. Emotionally. In geographical proximity. Kinda hard to be non involved. Also, there is a family history of suicide - and I think at the back of all our minds we struggle with decisions out of fear of facing another suicide. Right or wrong - those are the cards we are playing with.
And what is the point of making a 'family decision' if all family members aren't going to abide by the tough love philosophy.
Thanks for the thought provoking responses.