Puddin -
Lots of wise words before me. I am a recovering crack addict. I DID love people when I was active, but I loved being high more. I left my very active crack addicted boyfriend.
Even if he were to be clean for more than a year, I don't think I would take him back. I don't want to be in constant fear of a relapse, wondering if I would come home and everything I owned had been sold for crack, etc. I still love him, talk to him occasionally on the phone, but have to keep him at a distance.
I am totally amazed at the strength the parents here at SR have. They have taught me a lot about loving the addict, but living MY life. A parent doesn't have a choice about ending a relationship - they will always be that child's parent. But you and I have choices. I, personally, don't ever want to be in a love relationship with another addict. Maybe if they have YEARS of recovery, I would, but now I know to look at their actions.
Hugs and prayers!
Amy