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Thentram Hi rlynnh,
How does an alcoholic hit bottom? That one is simple: by drinking. When do they hit bottom? That is a very personal question as the answer will be unique for each individual.
I think those that have not struggled with alcoholism think of bottoms in terms of events: a dui, a divorce, loss of a job, etc. Those events are external consequences. My understanding of a bottom is when you reach a point where you just can't live like that anymore and the only options are not to live or making recovery your #1 priority. Each person needs to reach this point on their own, I don't believe they can be brought there by others.
Just as alcoholics are powerless over alcohol, we are powerless over others. The best anyone can do is make good decisions for themselves and avoid being brought down by the bad decisions of those around them.
This could not be said any better! My thoughts are ditto on this above.
Welcome to SR
I do hope that you stick around and keep posting and please take care of you and that little one!
I know that my XABF has not hit his bottom as he is still haunting me to this day-he has tried to make himself the victim now. Which is his choice-my choice was and is to move on!
I hit my bottom when I could not manage my own life anymore and everything was falling apart around me. It was then that I realized I need to help myself and started counseling again and going to my Al-Anon meetings and coming here every moment that I can because SR and the people in it have given me the hope, strength, courage and inspiration to progress in my recovery! I leave the wreckage behind and let those who are creating wreckage to keep doing it to themselves and I choose not to allow them to do it to me or myself do it to me either any longer!
Read above it says it all in this quote! Thank you Thentram!
Healing thoughts and Prayers to you Rlyn