Originally Posted by
uncertainty 
You cannot totally put all the blame on the alcohol, because you have the idea in your head if they would just quit it will all be solved. It is so hard when they can be the nicest person when they are not drinking and then do totally terrible things when they are.
Because someone is an alcoholic, it doesnt entitle them to a "get out of jail free" card. If he is doing that right under your nose, imagine what he is doing when you are not around
I couldn't agree more, my exabf quit drinking but it didn't matter as his behavior was still bad and he cheated and lied to me straight to my face sober. Some people just display bad behavior regardless of drinking or not. I used to blame alot on his drinking like his attitude, after a while i came to realize this was him.
Hugs to you and hope things get better for you.