From a codie, I would say put sobriety first but you also need to try to help your family understand. Like Ceciela said, your wife may be thinking that it is just another excuse. I know that when my A husband first started doing th 90 meetings in 90 days it concerned me a little, but I knew that it would be temporary. I think it may help if you sat down and had a family meeting and told them exactly what was going on and let them express their feelings and concerns and come to an agreement about spending some special time w/ them to help ease things. I know for our family - if my husband is not clean he is really not doing our family any good. He has to concentrate on his staying clean.