You are not weird or crazy, Ray. You are letting go. Not of him (yet) but of those codependent behaviors that he has come to count on. He is trying to push your buttons and you are not reacting and it is frightening to him. He also knows that, in fact, he deserves nothing from you and that scares him, too.
He DOESN'T know you anymore....because you are not the same woman anymore. It was the old Ray who was weird and crazy. It was the old Ray who was in that sick, codependent relationship. This new Ray really isn't responsible for his happiness...really can't rescue him. (You never could, but now you know it!)
Don't be surprised if he kicks up the drama a notch to try and get a reaction out of you. The way it worked for me was the harder he tried to get me going, the easier it was to stay out of the game.
We will all be with you, Girlfriend.
Babs