sobriety
You just gotta put sobriety first, get some strength in it, then you can pick up the pieces. That doesn't mean to say you can't do something nice with the family, too, and it sounds like all of you could benefit from a hour or two of special time every week.
Even with sobriety being first, say you do meetings every night, you still have Saturday afternoon for family time, something easy and pleasant like a museum or a park or a zoo. Something non-related to the problem, a neutral place. That would help to give them hope and reassurance and you would feel better, too.