I know it hurts. We codies want to be loved so much and we think that the only way that someone will love us is if we sacrifice ourselves for them. I know that is how I have felt in the past with my daughter. When I stopped giving, she did stop contacting me. But I had gotten to the point where the resentment was eating me alive. I have decided that I will wait for a healthy relationship and if that doesn't happen I will have to be content to know that God has other plans for me. Hugs, Marle