yes you do!!! go to a meeting & try to take your wife. it will be alot easier if you two can work together. you can also limit the phone calls or not take them if u can get your weife not to. it is hard, i see the i.d. & just don't answer. also suggest a half way house to your son.there are great & it teaches them how to live on the outside again. i always wanted my son to go to one but he always finds someone to let him live with them. he been in & out of prison for 13 yrs. now. he does not know how to live on the outside. prayers for u both & your son.