My son is also in jail.....hasn't gone to trial yet......but I have refused to post his bond....lord, it was hard, but I knew it was the right thing to do....I had to quit taking his calls in order to stay strong in my convictions, that this may be his last chance to find his way....and that will never happen if he doesn't have to face the consequences of his actions and lifestyle.......I am sure he is very mad and upset, but not any more mad and upset than I am over his choices to become and stay an addict......
I hope this helps, if for no other reason than to let you and the Mrs. know that you are not alone and are doing what is best for all of you.........