I also KNOW where you are with your son. My AS is now 41 & back in jail again for like the 10th time. The MAIN reason my 87 yr old parents kept enabling him. Stick to your guns. A Half-Way House is the best place for him.
Another thing the calls from prison cost a fortune.............I have a collect block on my phone . I tried to give him a chance many times if he would limit his calls to once a week........but he never stuck to it so now I keep a collect block on my phone.
Wishing you the best of luck with your wife. Can you get her to come to SR? Has she ever gone to a Nar-Anon mtg? If you could get your wife on the same page you are on regarding your son he would stand a much better chance.
Diane